Discussing Difficult Topics: The Representation of Women in Today鈥檚 Church
Neylan McBaine and Thomas A. Wayment
Neylan McBaine and Thomas A. Wayment, "Discussing Difficult Topics: The Representation of Women in Today's Church," Religious Educator 17, no. 2 (2016): 106鈥17.
Neylan McBaine is the author of Women at Church: Magnifying LDS Women鈥檚 Local Impact (Salt Lake City: Greg Kofford Books, 2014).
Thomas A. Wayment (thomas_wayment@byu.edu) was publications director of the Religious Studies Center when this article was published.
"There's always an opportunity to at least quote a woman in the Sunday School lesson as an ecclesiastical and spiritual authority, even if the stories themselves aren't about women."
Wayment: There seems to be a lack of female models鈥攔ole models鈥攂oth in biblical scripture and Book of Mormon scripture. I wonder how that lack affects emerging women鈥檚 identities. What are your thoughts on this? Do we need to create models? Are there good models that we鈥檙e maybe not making enough of?
McBaine: I think you鈥檝e hit it exactly. The founding idea of the Mormon Women Project and one that I talk a lot about in my book, Women at Church, is that 鈥測ou can鈥檛 be what you can鈥檛 see.鈥 History has been written by men for hundreds and thousands of years, and men鈥檚 history is the public history. Men鈥檚 history is the history of culture and politics and business. Women鈥檚 history is the history of domestic endeavors and the history of the home and the private sphere.
Now, with women in and out of the Church entering a more public sphere, there is a need for public female representation鈥攂oth visually and in the examples that we read about. We need to represent and reflect the changing demographic of our society, our workforce, our educational force, and our spiritual communities, where women are no longer being told, 鈥淛ust do your work in the home.鈥 They鈥檙e being invited into ward councils, into the highest councils of the Church. Their voices are needed and being encouraged at every level. But because examples of women in those roles are sparse, some women feel uncomfortable claiming those opportunities.
Examples of women in expanded spheres do exist, but they have to be excavated鈥攄iscovered and brought out of obscurity and held up to be examined and emulated. These women can be found in ancient and more recent history, and there are scriptorians and historians who are doing comprehensive work to bring these women to light. But I am personally interested in the contemporary Mormon woman and her expanded roles. Women today need to be celebrated鈥攏ot only for their domestic accomplishments, but for their community and work contributions, and also their ecclesiastical authority. I call this the 鈥渂oth/
In terms of general Church leadership, we鈥檙e seeing more and more female leaders and female examples also being excavated. We see the wives of the Apostles being put on the stand at general conference now, we have pictures of the female general officers in the Ensign and the Conference Center, things like that. Elder Nelson鈥檚 most recent conference talk gave us a mandate to know and love the Apostles鈥 wives as we love the Apostles themselves, and he encouraged women to claim their voice in a way that hasn鈥檛 been heard in recent history. I see small but significant changes happening to bring to light the examples we have.
Wayment: I understand you鈥檙e now excavating modern examples, but it seems like, as a man, I have such a variety of role models. I can be Nephi or Moroni, but with a woman, you have so few examples. I wonder, do you feel that has a direct correspondence?
McBaine: Oh, I absolutely think so. Women will often quip that the female examples in the scriptures are either harlots or angel mothers鈥攖hat鈥檚 another example of the 鈥渆ither/
And at the same time, we expect women to be able to seamlessly accomplish the gender translation needed to say, 鈥淚鈥檓 going to liken myself unto a Mesoamerican military captain who is noted for creating strategic forts.鈥 And we don鈥檛 think anything of that鈥攐f asking a woman to make that sort of gender-identity change to develop her spiritual personality. How often do we ask a man to put himself in the shoes of Rahab? Or Nephi鈥檚 wife?
I鈥檝e also heard stories, even just this year in Sunday School, where a woman is included as part of the lesson materials, and the teacher will just choose to drop her out of the lesson because they run out of time or don鈥檛 really know what to say about her. It feels that women are the first to be dropped out. That might be because we鈥檙e not quite sure what to do with them. There isn鈥檛 a lot of information about them.
That problem was illuminated for me a couple years ago when I became familiar with Heather Farrell, who runs a blog called Women in the Scriptures. It鈥檚 interesting how she started the blog鈥攕he was home with small children, and she just started reading the scriptures really, really carefully with an eye for all the women. She has written blog posts on the hundreds and hundreds of women in the canonical scriptures. And even if they鈥檙e not named, even if it鈥檚 just a mention of 鈥淪o-and-so and their sister,鈥 or, 鈥渁nd her daughter came with her,鈥 or something like that. Heather Farrell has put such time and love into each one of them. She wrote a book about these women last year, and what I loved about her approach was that it was completely nonhistorical, just a personal exploration of what these women taught her about the women in the scriptures.
And then, of course, there are examples like Camille Fronk Olson, who is taking a very academic approach to the women in the scriptures. There鈥檚 room for all of that, and more. One of the things I learned, actually, from both Camille and Heather is the idea of actively looking for women in the scriptures, and the interesting things you can find if you actually look for them. They both point out that so much imagery in the scriptures is female. You know, wisdom, love, etc.鈥攁nd so much imagery is about pregnancy and birth. It makes us ask, 鈥淲ell how did the men鈥攚hat we think are exclusively men鈥攚ho wrote these scriptures have enough intimate knowledge of pregnancy and the toils of women to be able to create all these analogies?鈥
So there was either a lot of female influence on the writers, or maybe they were female writers themselves鈥擨 like dwelling on those possibilities.
Wayment: Are there ways that you see, in a classroom setting, a teacher could help bridge this gap in a meaningful way, from your own experience?
McBaine: Yes. One thing we鈥檙e trying to do at the Mormon Women Project right now is exactly that: we鈥檝e created our own supplements to Sunday School lessons. So we鈥檝e specifically taken the assignment of the Sunday School lesson鈥攖his year, the New Testament lessons鈥攁nd we鈥檝e created supplements that are written by both female scriptural scholars and good writers who we鈥檝e curated, and we post that every week to correspond with the lesson.
What those writers do is they take the scriptures that are covered in the lessons and they look at them from an exclusively female perspective. We鈥檝e also tried to give both historical and spiritual context for some of those women who might be glossed over by teachers who don鈥檛 know much about them. The New Testament is especially rich to do this with because there are so many female characters in it. The other thing we鈥檝e done is that we鈥檝e curated statements about the lesson鈥檚 theme from female general officers through the history of the Church. So we have President Barbara Smith talking about the parable of the talents, or we have another general female officer in the Primary general presidency or the Relief Society general presidency or the Young Women general presidency giving a statement about another value that the Savior is trying to teach through another story.
There鈥檚 always an opportunity to at least quote a woman in the Sunday School lesson as an ecclesiastical and spiritual authority, even if the stories themselves aren鈥檛 about women. We鈥檝e also, in those supplements, included statements from the 350 interviews that we have on the Mormon Women Project right now. These statements add examples of contemporary women living that principle, or discussing that principle.
So that鈥檚 one approach to the classroom setting, I think鈥攁lways making sure that women鈥檚 commentary is included as you鈥檙e teaching a principle or a story. And if there is a dearth of women in the scriptures to cite and learn from鈥攖he Book of Mormon will be tougher!鈥攖here are rich sources from Church history that are only now being tapped into.
Wayment: And with the examples from Church history, we can quote women by name as well, so we can attach the ideas to real people.
McBaine: Absolutely, yes. That鈥檚 why the idea of the pioneer journals is so rich, because it鈥檚 tapping into that private history that we actually have in abundance. A lot of the resources from that time aren鈥檛 going to be the public, male-driven history that we tend to study mostly in Church history courses. But women were speaking and leading in the early Church even more than today, and their lives and words are becoming more accessible as our historians continue to excavate their influence. For example, there is a book coming from the Church History department this spring that compiles鈥攍ike The Joseph Smith Papers鈥攖he original writings and talks of early female leaders. That will be a fantastic resource!
Wayment: Can you help our readers visualize, perhaps, the differences between a female and male experience in the Church?
McBaine: The way they really differ is in the actions that are considered appropriate fulfillment of taught principles. The expectations for our girls, as reflected in their Young Women lessons and principles, are not as action-driven as the boys. Girls are taught about charity, or virtue, or nurturing, or developing their individual worth鈥攁ll good things, but they are mostly theoretical, preparatory, internal. But the Young Men are inducted into this body of action, very literally: they start attending priesthood, they start collecting fast offerings, they start going home teaching, they start passing the sacrament, they hold the microphone for testimony meeting, or they hand out programs鈥攚hatever it is. There are all these physical manifestations of what they are being taught is their role in building the kingdom. And I think that鈥檚 at the heart of this division between boys and girls right now in the Church.
That sense of action may be a positive reflection of how effective we are in teaching the importance of principles and ordinances. Because what are ordinances? Ordinances are physical manifestations of commitments that we are making to God. It鈥檚 not an ordinance if it doesn鈥檛 have a physical component to it鈥攊f it doesn鈥檛 have an action in which we are actually underscoring a concept. And so there鈥檚 this physicality and need for bodies that is inherent in the gospel. Our ordinances require eating things, they require making signs, they require going underneath the water, you know. I think the boys start picking up on that really early on, that when they鈥檙e passing that sacrament, when they鈥檙e going out and collecting that money that we鈥檙e giving to the homeless, when they鈥檙e visiting people, they鈥檙e actually modeling the action inherent in our saving ordinances. And the girls have none of that institutional action-oriented work in their Young Women鈥檚 experiences.
You can look at Boy Scouts versus Activity Days and it鈥檚 the exact same thing. Boy Scouts are being given badges鈥攕omething physical for accomplishing specific tasks. Whereas the girls鈥攚ell, there鈥檚 been a lot of talk about Activity Days recently, how its definition is really at the hands of the local leader. It can be active鈥攏ot in an athletic sense, but in the sense of performing meaningful actions鈥攐r it can be passive (manicure and movie nights come to mind). There are no activities or jobs or accomplishments specifically associated with girls that age. I鈥檝e appreciated in my ward that the Primary chorister has made our Activity Days girls a de facto choir. She has them sing in sacrament meeting so that they feel they have a specific role in the ward and can be recognized for a particular public action.
So this division in church experience starts when they鈥檙e eight. And a lot of people, I think, would say, 鈥淥K, a woman builds the kingdom through her mothering and through the physical demands of domestic life.鈥 And I think that has worked well for many generations. But at this point, it鈥檚 not working as well because the physical demands of home keeping aren鈥檛 what they used to be, and men are sharing that burden a lot more鈥攖here鈥檚 a lot more crossover. That division simply doesn鈥檛 put the same responsibility on women as it used to, and so that rationale鈥攂uilding the kingdom through domestic life鈥攊sn鈥檛 working anymore.
Wayment: That鈥檚 a great thought. I鈥檓 going to throw another dynamic into this: the female missionaries. So now they鈥檙e coming back trained in enormous numbers. By comparison, I鈥檝e taught at BYU for nearly sixteen years. In a typical New Testament class, I used to have about 20 percent returned missionaries, and it would be almost always male. Once in a while I鈥檇 have a female returned missionary. Today it鈥檚 probably fifty-fifty male-female missionaries. And typically there鈥檚 only one or two students who haven鈥檛 gone on missions.
McBaine: Wow!
Wayment: And it鈥檚 completely changed the dynamic. So now I have in my classroom these female students who have had the same experiences, and it鈥檚 perhaps creating a bit of tension because they鈥檙e just as informed, they鈥檙e just as experienced, and now they鈥檙e shifting into a different role when they come back. I鈥檓 wondering how you see that missionary experience changing the dynamic here. So you鈥檝e said it鈥檚 not working, and that might be a further reason why it鈥檚 not working.
McBaine: Well, there are three things that I always go back to. But before that, I think it鈥檚 really important to acknowledge exactly what you just said, which is that these missionaries are having the same experiences, and there are levers in place in the mission field to promote and develop the leadership abilities of women that are not in place in the local churches yet. There鈥檚 that tension you described because they鈥檙e coming home to structures and organizations that are not set up to nurture their experiences and the talents they developed on their missions. That is, I think, going to be a huge test for us in the coming five to ten years.
But there are three things that I always go back to in saying how can we better prepare our local congregations to welcome in those women. And the first is, as I mentioned earlier, optics. It鈥檚 a small and simple thing, but we need to make sure that those women see themselves reflected in the people that are sitting up on the stand and the people who are speaking to them with authority about spiritual and ecclesiastical matters鈥攖he people who are reflecting to them the use of priesthood power.
There are the low-hanging fruit examples of optics that I鈥檝e already mentioned: more women on the stands, and in our imagery. One mid-singles ward here in Salt Lake City has the bishopric and all of their wives sit on the stand together every week, which I鈥檝e heard from members of that ward is incredibly meaningful to them. Many stakes are now having the stake Relief Society presidency sit on the stand during stake conference or are adding their photos to the stake offices. One lesser-considered example in the optics arena is the idea of baptismal witnesses. You know, the men who stand at the sides of the font to make sure the toes go under? The baptism is a symbol of the Savior dying and being resurrected. And who were the witnesses of the Savior's Resurrection? It was Mary. It was women. And Mary Magdalene herself being the 鈥淎postle鈥檚 Apostle鈥 as the Catholics call her, being the one to announce that the Savior had risen鈥攊s there something there we could emulate? Would it actually be more accurate to the reenactment of this sacred event to have the witnesses be women? I don鈥檛 know. But asking ourselves these kinds of questions, I think, is going to help us get to that place where those women can see jobs for themselves, see roles for themselves. So that鈥檚 optics.
The second thing is that we need to consider how administrative roles can evolve without disrupting priesthood keys. There is a huge range of possibility here that we are not considering, and I think this is what Elder Nelson touched on with his call to women in last conference. We need to enact Elder M. Russell Ballard鈥檚 counsel to really get women involved in ward councils, and we need to acknowledge that three women in ward council with ten men is going to have inherent structural challenges. And I think that Elder Ballard and local leaders I鈥檝e talked to are starting to wrestle with that. Like what does it mean to only have three women in this meeting, and what are the other levers that we can pull to make sure that those women鈥檚 voices are equally influential, right? There鈥檚 lots to be explored there, which is heartening.
The last thing is ecclesiastical authority. When I鈥檓 talking about ecclesiastical authority with a small a, I鈥檓 talking about that expectation of having influence, that expectation that if a woman gets up at conference and starts talking, that she鈥檚 going to have influence over the spiritual development of all members of the church. Not only the Primary or not only the Young Women or whoever her constituent is. We should expect the same thing that if a woman gets up and speaks in a local congregation, she deserves that expectation of influence.
And, you know, we can get into this on a separate strain, but the idea that Elder Dallin H. Oaks recently clarified really firmly the difference between priesthood keys, power, and authority. I think his clarifications are really important when we鈥檙e talking about how to bring these women into our local organizations. Elder Oaks made the point that the keys rest with men, but the authority and power is something that men and women can both have. Again, women in the mission field can start meetings, and they can organize these meetings, and be the administrative figures at the front of these meetings鈥攁nd that鈥檚 not something that鈥檚 actually trickled down yet to the local community.
Wayment: And she deserves to be heard with the same kind of authority. So I have two questions left. The first one: if you could say something to an educator, a person responsible for helping people define this issue and then bridge it, what would you say? You鈥檙e looking at that classroom, and your daughter is in that class. What would you want to say to that instructor? 鈥淗ere鈥檚 how you could help my daughter have a great experience and help be part of the kingdom.鈥
McBaine: I think the best thing we could do is not insist that she constantly be making the cognitive leap of seeing herself in male heroes. It鈥檚 a real gift to our girls and to our women to offer them stories and examples that don鈥檛 require their 鈥済ender screen鈥 to go up. It鈥檚 a translating process that I think exhausts our girls. I think not all of them do that translation effectively or efficiently. And I think that when we assume that they are making those gender translations, we over-burden their spiritual capacity. We overtax the willing suspension of disbelief that already comes with choosing faith. We鈥檙e already asking them to choose faith. We鈥檙e already asking them to go so far, and we鈥檙e trying to create experiences so that the Holy Ghost can bridge that gap. What a gift to not make our girls go that extra distance, you know?
The other thing I would say is that we shouldn鈥檛 assume that women don鈥檛 value power. I mean power in the very best sense. I mean power in the sense of influence. And I think sometimes in the Church we assume that our girls don鈥檛 want that. They might even tell themselves that they don鈥檛 want that, and maybe they actually don鈥檛, but I think that we assume too often that our girls don鈥檛 want to participate in ways that are visual, or public, or influential. And so, we鈥檝e created these two separate power spheres. We have a domestic sphere, which is rich, and there鈥檚 a power inherent in that that a lot of our women have enjoyed, and nurtured, and fostered for many decades. But at the same time, girls today want to explore power beyond those boundaries.
There is a generational tension in this power exploration, which is very apparent to me when I speak to older groups of people. Because these older women are saying to young girls, you know, 鈥淵ou鈥檝e got this great role; you鈥檝e got this great place to exercise power and influence,鈥 right? Younger girls exploring power outside of the domestic sphere feels like an indictment of older women who have found a lot of peace and comfort within that domestic power sphere. But these younger girls are saying, 鈥淔irst of all, I want to share that with my husband, and I can share that with my husband now. But I also want to explore a broader sphere of influence.鈥 It鈥檚 important to be clear that this idea of influence that I鈥檓 talking about is not, 鈥淚 want to have the power to make people do what I want.鈥 Influence in this sense is, 鈥淚 want to be able to be a contributing member of a community. I want a place of action.鈥 And a lot of girls are saying they want to do that because they love that community. Decisions made in ward councils and in Church communities and in decision-making bodies across the board change when women are active participants. And they change depending on how many women are in those groups. And women know that鈥攚e know that today. And when we鈥檙e left out of those groups, we know that decisions are being made without our life experience being considered.
I want to be clear: it is important to have our girls and women engaged in public conversations and community life not because I want a genderless society or Church community. I want our girls and women to be more involved precisely because they are not the same as men; they bring perspective and life experiences and priorities that are different, and that is the beauty of their voice. I love the idea of Relief Society, a sacred place where women and girls can develop their own voices in preparation for influencing the broader community. I think the potential and purpose of Relief Society is one of the things that鈥檚 been underexcavated for our girls and our women. I just talked about the sense of action that defines the priesthood. I believe that those kinds of active things can actually still be accomplished in the Relief Society too. And they used to be. They used to be. But that vision is鈥攚ell, not lost, but narrowed today. Action in the Relief Society is mostly localized today: we take care of our own, our own widows and elderly and sick and lonely. Which is good and right, but the organization has the potential to be a global force for good, which I don鈥檛 feel it is today.
I think one of the most valuable things that teachers can teach our girls: the history of the Relief Society is one of action. And it鈥檚 one of real community building and industry and social engagement. And if you ask a girl today what the Relief Society does, I don鈥檛 think she would define it that same way. What is the role of Relief Society? How is it actively involved in building the kingdom? What is the perception of it today? How do you actively participate in Relief Society? What is the Relief Society鈥檚 responsibility in the global Church organization? What is the Relief Society doing to relieve the suffering of the poor and needy in the world? It鈥檚 about charity, showing charity. I feel very passionately about the Relief Society, and I think that it鈥檚 being underutilized and underdeveloped.
Wayment: All right, my last question: What did you want us to ask that we didn鈥檛 ask?
McBaine: Well, I鈥檒l build off of your question earlier about what teachers can do. What can seminary and institute teachers do to strengthen our girls鈥 perception of themselves as agents of spiritual action? For me, the follow-up question to that is, 鈥淲here do we find these stories about women?鈥 There鈥檚 no doubt that with our manuals right now and with the approach that we鈥檝e had historically, seminary and institute teachers have to do a lot of work to find the kinds of women鈥檚 stories and quotes and perspectives I鈥檓 talking about. They have to do work to find pictures of our female general officers to put up in the classrooms. In fact, I have a great story about a Primary president who wanted to put up the pictures of the general Primary presidency in the Primary room along with the pictures of the fifteen prophets, seers, and revelators. And to find pictures of the general Primary presidency, she had to do a lot of work. She went to the distribution center, she did all of that, and she couldn鈥檛 find an 8.5 x 11 cardstock picture of any female general officer. The only picture she could find was of the three of them together. So to find President Wixom, she had to go to lds.org, she had to find a talk that President Wixom gave, she had to find her thumbnail photograph, she had to save the thumbnail as its own picture, edit it, and then take it and print it out as an 8.5 x 11. She did this, framed the photos, and the children noticed immediately and loved it!
The bottom line is that teachers have to take a lot of initiative to improve the optics, administration, and ecclesiastical authority of women today. One of the things we鈥檝e done at the Mormon Women Project to aid in this challenge is put together a bibliography of books that seminary and institute teachers can use. Everything from the Women of Faith series that Deseret Book puts out, to the Camille Fronk Olson books, to Heather Farrell鈥檚 book, to some sources like mine that have looked at contemporary LDS women. And the Church History Library is working on a project to compile and index all speeches given by female officers of the Church, because if you look for Eliza R. Snow on lds.org, you get very few hits. I would love to see more effort be put into that.
I guess the other question I鈥檇 like to answer is, 鈥淲hat would I love to see happen?鈥 or 鈥淲here do I think this is all going?鈥 You know, I like the question because it gives me an opportunity to say that I鈥檓 much more interested in the journey鈥攈ow we鈥檙e moving as a body of Christ towards a more effective integration of women and girls. But I鈥檓 interested in doing it in a way that really builds our community rather than tears it down. I want to focus on doing it in a Christlike manner. Emmeline B. Wells described the suffrage movement at the end of the nineteenth century as 鈥渄iamond cutting diamond,鈥 meaning that good women were fighting against other good women. I am both discouraged that we鈥檝e seen that same diamond cutting among our women in recent years, and also hopeful that we can rise above that.
That said, I definitely have things I鈥檇 love to see that are more substantial than just putting people鈥檚 pictures up. And they mostly revolve around the Relief Society and the development of the Relief Society as a global aid organization that is run administratively and ecclesiastically by women.
Wayment: That鈥檚 a great thought. I would love to see that myself.